The Curse of Dating Apps
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Online dating has become nuclear waste, literally. And sometimes, the ones who are new to that ‘’world’’ will try to do anything to get something out of it. This article tries to explain to you the dangers, the hidden truth, and the way out of it. Whether you are a man or a woman, it’s here to give you what you need without any water.
Their Goal Isn’t You
It’s your money. The #1 rule of online dating, if I were to give you this, is: do not try to find the love of your life using the internet. It’s a mistake, and it’s a big one. As soon as you create an account to date someone, the dating algorithm will try to do anything to: 1) get you intrigued by the blurred profile that liked you; 2) when you show interest in that profile, they take you to a page to pay for this feature; 3) you either pay or you don’t. My question to you is: since when in this life and on this Earth do you have to pay someone/something you don’t know to show you who liked you? Shouldn’t it be that simple that when a woman/man likes you, they just reach out to you in real life? That’s what many forget. Dating platforms were created to make sure they intrigue people into giving their money for something that should be completely free. If dating apps were really promising, giving you your love for life, they wouldn’t even exist, because people would constantly download and delete them. Their goal is to make sure that the effort they put into the algorithm, organization of things, and design is somehow remunerated. The sole purpose of dating apps’ existence is money, and if you know that, lucky you.
Diluted
When I say diluted, I mean that dating apps don’t care anymore if the profile texting you is a biological man or woman. You might like a profile whose owner has switched genders. And often, dating apps do not even have a separate category for them. Yeah, I am right, it’s our reality as humans. We cannot even escape it.
Money Beggars
Money beggars not in the sense of the platform itself (we already know them), but in the sense of women profiles. You go to the profile of a woman, and you read a bio like: “Where do you wanna take me out”, or “If you can’t even pay for my internet, don’t even text me”, or “Let me know if you are a generous man”. If you are a man reading this, remember that dating platforms have 3 types of money loops: the platform itself, the greedy female profiles, and scams. I doubt you are even going to find the love of your life if you are searching through dating platforms.
Predators
Some women profiles you see are not women at all. Behind the profile, there is a man that exploits the platform and other users. Some just scam online and get an insignificant amount of money. But there is another dangerous moment I want to warn you about, and it’s important for you. Some profiles of women (behind them are men) specify in their bio that they are married. They lure you and say they want you to come to their house. You get to the house and you see a bunch of men recording you and scolding you for helping in cheating, trying to make content out of you. If you ever become a victim of this scenario, you go to the police and file for fraud and unauthorized recording. It is important to note that this scenario applies in a country with secular rule. In religion-oriented countries, you would be found guilty. So be careful.
The Illusion of Choice
Dating apps make you believe you have endless options. Thousands of profiles, endless swipes, constant “new matches”. But in reality, this creates confusion instead of clarity. You stop seeing people as individuals and start treating them like disposable cards. The illusion of choice also kills patience. Instead of building something real with one person, users keep searching for “better”, even when better doesn’t exist. This cycle keeps people stuck in a loop of comparison, never satisfaction.
Emotional Burnout
After some time on dating apps, people don’t even realize how exhausted they become. At first it feels exciting, but later it turns into repetition, disappointment, and emotional fatigue. You start to expect less, trust less, and feel less. Conversations become dry, interest fades quickly, and even genuine connections feel suspicious. This is where many people don’t notice how the platform slowly changes their perception of relationships in general.
The Exit Is Awareness
The real problem is not just the apps themselves, but the lack of awareness people have when using them. Once you understand how the system works, the patterns become obvious. At that point, you either continue playing the game with full awareness or you step out completely and return to real-life interactions. Either way, the key is no longer being controlled by illusion, but seeing it for what it is.
Conclusion
Socialize, improve yourself, and invest in becoming a better person. Go out and experience the real world, because it is far more vast than what a screen can offer, with countless real opportunities waiting for you. Real communication will always beat everything. No algorithm, no swipe, and no profile can replace the value of genuine human connection built face to face, in real time, with real presence.
