Greetings

The goal of this website is not just to share professional thoughts. Eraj is not just a title, he is a human being just like you. And as a human being, we encounter many things in our lives. All the words that will follow are based on my experience. I might be wrong, and I might be right, it depends, but my thoughts are based on a common sense. I want to explore the tricks some women of our century use to take advantage of your life, and I hope that as a man you understand them and prevent them from happening. It is not for nothing that I am telling you this.

Conditioning

For the purposes of anonymity, nothing personal about other people will be shared. Let’s name her X. I was in Dushanbe, my capital city, a truly beautiful, busy, and alive city. I met a woman that I somehow liked. We exchanged numbers, and we started talking from time to time on WhatsApp and Telegram. The day we agreed to meet and talk to each other, just a simple meeting outside and a casual walk, she started conditioning the meeting.

Now you might ask what that means. Conditioning of the meeting is basically the steps she expects you to complete before she even shows up. In simple terms, it means trying to get as much money as possible. She said she needed money for a taxi, that she was hungry, and that she just happened to be nearby a place where maybe we could order a really big pizza. That is how she framed it. Now the question is, in a public place, what are we supposed to do with the biggest pizza she would order with my money? Didn’t we agree just to meet and talk? In the modern world, this is what you would call a red flag. I cancelled the meeting, or date, however you want to call it.

Negative to Others, Positive to You

If you are a man, remember one thing: the human brain in general cannot focus on many things at once. You might ask how this is related to what I am about to say. The point is that when a woman you are dating tries to adjust her behavior in your favor so she appears all good and polished, you should also observe how she behaves with others. Because acting differently is something many people do on a first date. But while her attention is focused on presenting herself well to you, any interruption can reveal a different side of her.

For example, imagine you are in a restaurant and a waiter comes, or a random guy on the street is selling heart-shaped balloons for couples. In those moments, you may notice a shift in her behavior. And sometimes, that shift makes you question what is genuine and what is performance.

To give you an example, once I went on a date in the middle of the night. I think we met in a park and sat down. She seemed calm, well-mannered, and you would probably think she is the one. Then a boy came selling balloons for couples. When he tried to give me a balloon to give to her, she grabbed it and threw it away. That is when I felt something was off, and I realized she was acting.

Vase of Slag

A vase of slag is a situation where a woman intentionally calls you, meets you, or interacts with you just to dump her negative emotions onto you. It leaves you feeling guilty for no real reason, forcing you to apologize without understanding why.

To give a real example, I had an experience with a woman who would call me during her period just to scream and argue over meaningless things, only to later calm down and say it was because of her period. As a man, we do not deserve that. Just because a biological condition is present does not mean it justifies that kind of behavior.

Sometimes she may simply be in a bad mood, but when you see her escalating conflict with you, you need to recognize that she is choosing to engage in that behavior. Some women know that men can tolerate it, so they come, they call, they argue, and then they unload everything on you. You have two choices: either stay and absorb it, or leave immediately.

Remember that a person who constantly absorbs negativity and tries to understand everything all the time eventually becomes a vase of slag. Not only does it break over time, but it also starts to affect how you feel and how others perceive you.